TODAY’S VIEWPOINT IS ON THE NEED TO ADDRESS THE INCREASING RATE OF DIVORCE. IT IS WRITTEN BY EMMANUEL DADA, A YOUTH CORPS MEMBER IN THE NEWS AND CURRENT AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT
Marriage is not just the coming together of two lovers, but a collision of their histories.
It is a clash of cultures, experience, memories, habits, and the accommodation of each other for a lifetime.
However, under the celebrations, merriments and union, lies the humbling reality that marriages are increasingly scattering at an alarming rate, casting shadows on family stability and societal cohesion.
In recent years, Nigeria has witnessed a concerning trend of increasing divorce rates and failed marriages.
Gone are the days when marriages were solely anchored by tradition and family ties.
Today, Nigerian couples navigate a complex landscape where economic pressures, shifting gender roles, and evolving individual aspirations play vital roles in family stability and otherwise.
The once steadfast pillars of communal support and extended family networks are now strained under the weight of perceived modernity.
In a nation as culturally diverse as Nigeria, the clash between traditional values and modern aspirations, adds another layer of complexity to marital discord.
While some uphold age-old customs that dictate roles and responsibilities within marriages, others embrace rather progressive ideas of equality and individual freedom, with the rise of several ideologies geared toward that.
One of the primary reasons identified for the surge in failed marriages, is the lack of compatibility between couples.
Many individuals, driven by desperation, deceit, or parental as well as peer pressure, rush into marriages without thoroughly considering their compatibility with their intended spouses.
The inability to handle conflicts and resolve issues effectively is also another major factor contributing to the rise in divorce rates.
Many young couples lack the emotional maturity and communication skills necessary to navigate the challenges marriage poses.
Additionally, societal norms and unrealistic expectations, particularly regarding gender roles and success, can create tensions within marriages.
Infidelity and lack of commitment have also played significant roles in the dissolution of many marriages in Nigeria.
Also the prevalence of abusive relationships, whether physical, emotional, or psychological is an issue.
The very tragic case of gospel singer, Osinachi Nwachukwu has brought to light the issue of domestic violence and abuses within marriages.
One cannot ignore the economic realities that permeate marital dynamics.
With inflation tightening its grip and job opportunities dwindling, financial strains often affect the sanctity of marriage.
Arguments over money, lack of financial planning, and the inability to meet material expectations breed discontent, eroding the emotional foundation that marriages are built upon.
Meanwhile, the rise in failed marriages has far-reaching consequences for Nigeria society.
children from broken homes stand the chance of experiencing emotional trauma, behavioural issues, and difficulties in forming healthy relationships in the future.
The society must understand that every societal problem was first a family problem not properly managed, thus family is the prototype of society.
Furthermore, the breakdown of marriages can contribute to social issues such as single parenthood and child abandonment.
These issues can strain social services and create a cycle of dysfunction within communities.
To address the alarming rise in failed marriages, there is the need for better preparation and education for couples before entering into marriage.
premarital counselling, communication workshops, and mentorship programs can help couples develop the skills necessary to navigate the challenges of marital life.
Addressing societal and cultural pressures, promoting gender equality, and fostering a culture of open communication and emotional intelligence can contribute significantly to the success of marriages.
Conclusively, the understanding of marriage, its success and failure is not merely a private matter, but a reflection of broader societal issues.
By addressing the underlying factors contributing to marital breakdowns and promoting healthy relationships, people can work towards a future where marriages are built on a foundation of love, respect, and commitment.
